We rarely end up with our first love. However, many people call their first partner “the one that got away.” In reality, things just didn’t work out, as is often the case with love. We often make many mistakes in our first relationship and get wiser as time goes on. However, we must admit that there’s no pain like your first heartbreak. For people who don’t focus on self-growth and moving forward, it can allow you to dwell on the past.
Still, even the most self-aware people who manage to get past the breakup still find difficulty in moving on. That first person sets the bar for all relationships in the future. Despite knowing that things wouldn’t work out if you tried again and learning that this person won’t be your soulmate or forever person, the question remains: do you ever get really over your first love? Since it’s our first memory of romantic love, it can be tough to forget this person completely.
The good memories haunt you just as much as the bad ones. For many people, their first relationship borders on infatuation and obsession. It can be a co-dependant experience, which is why moving on to the next person or even learning how to be alone can feel impossible for many.
As is the tragic reality of it, many love stories have an ending. Time heals on, and we figure out how to get past the heartbreak. Even so, lots of people find that they still can’t let go of each other. Their ex will always be their weak spot, and they wonder “what if” about what the future could have held together.
Many men struggle to move on with “that girl” that first stole their hearts, and the same is true for women in the same position. Once you’ve experienced such intense love (or even lust) with someone, we will forever compare our potential partners. They’re what we base all subsequent and future relationships on.
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